You should never marry someone like yourself.
It might sound like a good idea. You'll never argue. You'll be used to one another's idiosyncrasies, so they won't be annoying. Lots of harmony ahead. But, that's just the problem. This stability, this comfort... this inevitability... will prevent you from growing and evolving. You'll simply become more stuck in your ways and you'll miss out on all that life has to offer.
You might think that you're already God's gift to mankind, so partnering with a clone of yourself sounds like a match made in Heaven. However, you might not be all that great - even if you think you are. How are you going to ever know what an asshole you are, unless there's someone else with a bit of perspective who can point that out to you? Marrying someone unlike yourself gives you something to strive for. You will need to earn their love by becoming a better person, because - no matter what you think now - you're not really there, yet.
Psychologists have said that they can tell whether a couple will remain with one another five years down the line from simply observing how well they respond to one another's attempts to connect. For example, one of the partners tells a lame joke and the other laughs, even though they think it's stupid. Or, they say something banal, but the other takes a moment to react and reply. By contrast, the ones that don't last shut each other down. They ignore, or criticise, or signal that they're not interested. If you were with someone like yourself all the time, you wouldn't need these opportunities to connect, because you'd already know what the other person was thinking. Then, over time, you're going to ignore one another all the more. This isn't a recipe for good relations.
If you do think it's better to marry someone just like you, then just make sure they aren't better than you. Otherwise, it will sow disappointment.
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Where you grow up doesn't appear to affect your income, but it does affect your chance of marrying.
Growing up in New York, San Francisco, Chicago, Boston and Washington confers a 10% negative chance of marrying, whereas the opposite is true for the conservative states like Utah, southern Idaho and parts of Colorado.
Living in a large city decreases your chance of marrying but nowhere near that of New York City.--David G. Wilson